"All Men are D-Bags"

Yeah that is def. a derogatory title.

I just walked out of the movies tonight with some friends and two of the girls I was with, both agreed upon this accusation. I was standing right there. I am not sure how exactly to respond to this, but i am going to try.

First off i admit that I myself have not always treated girls well. I admit that there has been one girl in my life that i treated like absolute dirt. I was 17 years old, and the day after this event took place, i went crying to my church because i felt like a cheep d-bag. I spent the rest of the summer trying to call this girl to apologize, and ended up writing her three letters. The first week of School my senior year, she walked up to me and said that she forgave me. I still feel like a d-bad for what i had done. Aside from that one incident. I need to also make this statement. Girls if all guys are d-bags....and lets just put it out there, maybe the majority are but not all. So lets rephrase- if most guys are d-bags, QUIT LETTING THEM TREAT YOU THE WAY THEY DO!

Now here is my frustration. I am not perfect, and know that i will hurt another girl in my future. I think it is inevitable. Even when i am married i know that i will at some point break my wife's heart. I will make a stupid decision, i will say words that i wish never would have come out of my mouth. Something will take place and my wife/girlfriend/daughter/girl that is a friend, will be incredibly hurt by what i say or do. At the same time i expect this from my girlfriend, wife, daughter, girl that is a friend...well i don't expect it, but i am not naive, and know that at some point it will happen. But seriously, i pray to God that no girl will ever look at me or hear my name and think "yeah that guy is a d-bag." That would kill me. I have lived my life trying to hard as much as i can to respect girls, and show them that they are loved and beautiful creations of God. Rarely will you ever hear the word "hot" come out of my mouth in reference to how i think a girl looks. Rarely will you ever see me not open the door for a girl, or not be chivalrous. I don't yell at girls and i don't call them bitches. If i meet a cute girl, and describe them to my friends, their body is never a part of my definition. Their face, their eyes, their hair, their personality, their smile, their attitude, their passion for life or interests and heart, are what i look for. Not their breasts, stomach, legs or ass. And why not be honest sure i might think to myself that a girl has a nice body, but let me be even more honest, i know for sure that no matter how physically attractive a girl is, their personality will always be what makes them beautiful or not. NOT THEIR LOOKS.

So why do i write all this, what is my frustration exactly? Why do girls always make the guys who are sweet and sensitive, and truly care about them feel like they are not good enough? Why is it that if a guy is not arrogant or cocky, or a guy who does not talk about himself like he is the shit, always get treated like they are "cute" or "a nice guy" but never like a man. Why is it that girls will always chance the guy that is a dick a complete d-bag, and leave the good guys on the side. I'm sick of it. Girls if you really want guys to not be d-bags, then start looking for the guys that aren't. And quit letting the guys that are get away with it. We are out there, and chances are we have a crush on you. Even more then that, chances are we have been trying to show you or tell you or even talk to you, but you continue to make us feel worthless because we don't have stellar looks, or a washboard stomach, or dress extremely fashionably, or have a lot of money. And we are probably timid about it because we are so use to hearing "oh that's cute" or seeing you so upset over the last d-bag that you wanted that treated you like shit. But i guarantee you that the love that we want to show you would be better then you have ever experienced. We might actually love you for your heart and not your chest. We might actually open doors out of our complete desire to serve you and respect you, not to just sneak a peak of your ass. We might actually buy you flowers just because we want to show you we love you and think you are beautiful, not to just get you to sleep with us. And yea, we might not be all that confident, or at least not in the way you would want us to be. I actually had a few different girls tell me that it was hot when i was arrogant. I would say things jokingly and they would tell me that it was hot. Fuck...yes i said the f word....Fuck that. Girls really want arrogant guys. REALLY! I don't want to talk about how great i am, or be "strong" and tell a girl what to do. Maybe i want to watch the girl be who she is and just love her, or maybe i want to allow the girl to build me up a little because of the respect i give her that she is not use to. Not tell me i am cute, for it. Or tell me how much she is not use to having a door opened and go on to tell me how she can open it herself. Of course she can, that's not the freaking point. The point is to show the girl that she is honored and respected. it is to serve her to allow her to know that she means more to us/me then just another person or a piece of meet. That she is my FATHERS daughter. That she is God's daughter and that she is a beautiful creation and a princess who commands my respect. NO i won't be arrogant, I wont talk about myself like i am the shit, and i won't talk about how strong i am, or how weak other people are. I won't try to impress you with my body or my money, or my style or looks. I want to impress you with how i love you, how i serve you, my heart for other people and for God.

So I'm sick of it. I'm sick of hearing girls say in front of me that guys are stupid, dumb, d-bags, boys, jerks, dicks, what ever term any of you girls might want to use. Because honestly you are the ones that allow guys to be like that. If you don't want guys to be like that then put us in our freaking place when we act like that, quit falling for the lying piece of shit guys that might talk all nice, but still treat you like shit all the time, player, arrogant, bastards that you give your time and attention to. God does not want that for you and I hate seeing it. We are out there, we will love you, we will respect you, and we will care for you better then what you have ever been cared for before in your life, just give us a freaking chance and quit calling us cute and belittling our actions or words that are being sent out in love and respect for you.